아들에게 아빠가 필요한 이유

아들에게 아빠가 필요한 이유 100가지 라는 책에서 발췌했습니다. 원제는  Why a son need  a father 입니다.

100가지 이유중에서  좋은 대학 보내라는 말도,  공부 잘하게 도와주라는 말도,  아들을 위해 돈 열심히 벌라는 얘기는 없네요.   수단과 목적이 전도된 현실의 우리 아빠들에게 주는 메세지가 있네요.

과연 나는 어떤 아빠인가 생각해 봅니다

 

아들에게 아빠가 필요한 100가지 이유 국내도서 저자 : 그레고리 E. 랭 글 / 재닛 랭포드 모란,이혜경역 출판 : 나무생각 2003.12.22 상세보기

 

 

A son needs a dad show him how to shave.

A son needs a dad who can playful and silly.

A son needs a dad to teach him to be a gracious winner as well as a gracious father.

A son needs a dad to take him camping to wrestle with him in the grass, to teach him and to teach him how to fix things himself.

A son needs a dad to show him how to be productive with his hands.

A son needs a dad to take him fishing.

A son needs a dad to teach him how to talk with girls, to teach him to apologize for reckless words, to pull him back when he headed in the wrong direction, and to listen when others have grown tired of listening.

A son needs a dad to tell him that he is proud of him.

A son needs a dad to teach him to always give a good day’s work.

A son needs a dad to encourage him when he meets with disappoint, to teach him that it is wise to seek advice, to help him learn from his mistakes, and to talk with about tough decisions he will face.

A son needs a dad to make the family whole.

A son needs a dad to help him face his challenge with confidence.

A son needs a dad to be a doting grandfather for his children.

A son needs a dad to show him how to control his temper, to tell him that there is no disgrace in losing, to show him how to compromise, and to tell him that all is not hopeless even when it may seem that it is.

A son needs a dad to nurture his independence.

A son needs a dad so that he will have at least one hero he can depend on to share with him the wisdom he has not yet acquired, to help him try again after he has stumbled, and to show him how to love others, even when it is hard.

A son needs a dad to prepare him for being responsible for his own family.

A son needs a dad who will be there for him when he needs help.

A son needs a dad who will help him to discover his place in life.

A son needs a dad to help him understand it isn’t necessary to be like everyone else.

A son needs a dad to teach him when to lead and when to follow.

A son needs a dad to show him unconditional love.

A son needs a dad to show him the difference between being firm and being stubborn.

A son needs a dad to let him be his equal now and then.

A son needs a dad to teach him not to use others for his own benefit, to provide moral guidance as he becomes a man, to urge him to pursue worthy goals, and to tell him often that he is loved.

A son needs a dad to teach him that family is more important that work.

A son needs a dad to show him patience.

A son needs a dad who will expect him to play fair, to teach him to stand up for himself, to teach him to be accountable for his wrongdoings, and to tell him that ignorance is not excuse.

A son needs a dad to give him the gentle pushes that help him grow.

A son needs a dad to teach him that he does not always need to be in control, to tell him it is Okay to admit his mistakes, to teach him that strength is best expressed with restraint, and to teach him how to maintain dignity in difficult times.

A son needs a dad to encourage him when he is in doubt of himself.

A son needs a dad who will help his mother, to teach him to be respectful of women, to teach him how to be a gentleman, and to help him plan for his future.

A son needs a dad who will give comfort of protection and affection.

A son needs a dad who welcomes self-expression.

A son needs a dad who will show him affection without hesitation.

A son needs a dad who allows him to question.

A son needs a dad who is willing to make sacrifices for his family.

A son needs a dad to teach him not to let pride get in the way of listening.

A son needs a dad because without him he will have less in his life than he deserves.